What is Brainspotting? What Men Can Expect from a Session

If you have been carrying stress, difficult emotions, or experiences that are hard to put into words, you may be wondering whether there is a different way to approach the work.

Brainspotting is a focused, body-aware approach developed by David Grand, Ph.D. in 2003. It explores the connection between where we look, what we feel in the body, and the emotions or experiences that may still feel unresolved.

For men who are used to pushing through, staying busy, or trying to “think” their way out of everything, Brainspotting can offer a quieter way to slow down and pay attention to what is happening beneath the surface.

What is a “brainspot”?

A brainspot is a point in a person’s visual field that may connect with an emotional or physical response.

During a session, a trained practitioner may help you notice a specific eye position while you pay attention to what comes up internally. Rather than forcing a memory or trying to find the perfect words, the process makes space to observe thoughts, feelings, sensations, and reactions at a manageable pace.

The goal is not to relive painful experiences or to manufacture a breakthrough. It is to create a focused, supportive environment where you can become more aware of patterns that may be keeping you stuck.

What does a Brainspotting session look like?

A session usually begins with a conversation about what you would like support with. That may include stress, feeling emotionally shut down, recovery, relationship struggles, self-doubt, or a sense that you are carrying more than you can explain.

From there, you may be invited to notice what is happening in your body as you think about the issue. A practitioner may guide you to find an eye position that feels connected to that experience.

You remain in control throughout the process. You do not have to share every detail of your story, and you can pause, slow down, or shift focus at any time.

Some people notice emotions, memories, physical sensations, or new insight. Others simply notice that they feel calmer, clearer, or more connected to themselves after having space to be present.

Who may be interested in Brainspotting?

Brainspotting may appeal to people who:

• Feel stuck in patterns they understand intellectually but still struggle to change

• Have a hard time putting emotions into words

• Feel disconnected, numb, anxious, angry, or overwhelmed

• Want support with recovery, self-awareness, or emotional resilience

• Are looking for a focused approach that includes both mind and body

Every person’s experience is different. It is not a shortcut, a cure, or a replacement for appropriate medical or mental-health treatment.

Brainspotting, coaching, and therapy

Coaching and therapy serve different purposes. Coaching can help with goals, accountability, habits, values, and moving forward. Therapy is appropriate for diagnosing and treating mental-health conditions, trauma, and other clinical concerns.

If you are experiencing a mental-health crisis, severe symptoms, or feel unsafe, seek immediate help from a licensed mental-health professional or emergency support. Brainspotting should be used within the appropriate scope of a practitioner’s training and credentials.

A different way to stay in the fight

Many men have spent years trying to be strong by handling everything alone. But strength is not pretending nothing affects you. Strength is being willing to understand yourself more honestly and ask for the right kind of support.

At 10th Round Coaching, I bring a practical, compassionate, and accountability-focused approach to helping men move forward.

If you are in Roseville, Sacramento, or anywhere in California and want to learn whether this approach may fit your goals, reach out to schedule a free 15-minute consultation.

You do not have to have every answer before you begin. Stay in the fight.

Staying Sober Through the Summer: How to Navigate Triggers, Events, and Temptation

For many people, summer is a season of relaxation, vacations, barbecues, pool parties, and celebrations. While those things can be enjoyable, they can also create unique challenges for people in recovery.

If you’re working hard to maintain your sobriety, summer can sometimes feel like a minefield of triggers. Alcohol is often front and center at social gatherings. Long days and disrupted routines can leave you feeling vulnerable. Vacations may place you in unfamiliar environments where old habits and temptations resurface.

The good news is that staying sober through the summer is absolutely possible. With awareness, planning, and the right coping strategies, you can enjoy everything the season has to offer without compromising your recovery.

Why Summer Can Be Challenging for Sobriety

Many people assume that the holiday season is the hardest time to stay sober, but summer presents its own set of obstacles.

During the summer months, people tend to spend more time socializing. Barbecues, beach trips, weddings, sporting events, concerts, camping trips, and vacations often involve alcohol or other substances. For someone in recovery, these situations can trigger cravings, memories, or feelings of exclusion.

Summer can also disrupt the routines that support recovery. Children are out of school. Work schedules may change. Travel becomes more common. Even positive changes can create stress when structure begins to disappear.

Recovery often thrives on consistency. When routines become unpredictable, relapse risk can increase.

Common Summer Triggers

The first step toward protecting your sobriety is recognizing potential triggers before they catch you off guard.

Social Events

Cookouts, family gatherings, weddings, and parties often center around drinking.

You may hear comments like:

• “Come on, just have one.”

• “You used to be fun.”

• “Nobody will know.”

Even if these comments are meant jokingly, they can create pressure and discomfort.

Hot Weather

Many people associate hot weather with drinking. Beer at a barbecue. Cocktails by the pool. Drinks at a baseball game.

These associations can activate old thought patterns and cravings, especially if drinking was a major part of previous summers.

Vacations

Vacations can be wonderful, but they can also remove many of the recovery tools you rely on daily.

When you’re away from your support system, regular meetings, gym, work schedule, or family responsibilities, it’s easier for old thinking patterns to return.

Boredom and Free Time

Long summer days can create more unstructured time.

Many people in recovery discover that boredom is a significant trigger. When the mind isn’t engaged, it often begins romanticizing past substance use and forgetting the consequences that came with it.

Emotional Triggers

Not every summer trigger is external.

You may feel lonely watching others socialize. You may compare yourself to others. You may feel frustrated, stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed.

Emotions that aren’t addressed can become powerful relapse triggers.

The Danger of Romanticizing the Past

One of the biggest traps in recovery is selective memory.

Your brain may remind you of the “good times” associated with drinking or using. It might replay memories of parties, vacations, or celebrations while conveniently ignoring the consequences.

When this happens, pause and remind yourself of the complete story.

Remember:

• The hangovers.

• The damaged relationships.

• The financial consequences.

• The anxiety.

• The shame.

• The loss of control.

Recovery requires honesty. The fantasy of substance use rarely reflects reality.

Create a Summer Recovery Plan

Just like athletes prepare for competition, people in recovery benefit from having a plan.

Ask yourself:

• What events am I attending this summer?

• Which situations could be triggering?

• Who can I call if cravings arise?

• What is my exit strategy if I feel uncomfortable?

Having answers before you need them can make a tremendous difference.

A simple plan often prevents impulsive decisions.

Bring Your Own Non-Alcoholic Drinks

This may sound obvious, but it can be surprisingly effective.

Many people feel more comfortable at social events when they already have a drink in their hand.

Sparkling water, flavored seltzers, sports drinks, and non-alcoholic beverages can help reduce feelings of standing out while supporting your commitment to sobriety.

Most importantly, you’ll never find yourself in a situation where alcohol is your only option.

Don’t Be Afraid to Leave Early

One of the most powerful recovery tools is permission.

You have permission to leave.

You do not owe anyone an explanation.

If an event becomes uncomfortable, if cravings begin to increase, or if you feel emotionally overwhelmed, leaving is often the healthiest decision.

Protecting your recovery is more important than protecting someone else’s feelings.

Stay Connected to Your Support Network

Summer activities can make it easy to drift away from recovery support.

This is often when people need support the most.

Continue:

• Attending meetings.

• Talking with sponsors.

• Checking in with sober friends.

• Working with a coach or counselor.

• Participating in recovery communities.

Connection is one of the strongest defenses against relapse.

Isolation often creates opportunities for addiction to regain a foothold.

Maintain Healthy Routines

Recovery thrives on structure.

Even during vacations and holidays, try to maintain:

• Consistent sleep schedules.

• Regular exercise.

• Healthy eating habits.

• Daily reflection or journaling.

• Recovery-related activities.

These habits create stability when everything else feels chaotic.

You don’t have to be perfect. You simply need to remain intentional.

Find Sober Summer Activities

One of the best ways to strengthen recovery is discovering that life can be enjoyable without substances.

Summer offers countless opportunities to create new memories.

Consider:

• Hiking

• Swimming

• Fishing

• Cycling

• Traveling

• Photography

• Fitness challenges

• Community events

• Family outings

• Learning new skills

Many people discover that sobriety actually allows them to enjoy these activities more fully because they are present and engaged.

Practice the HALT Method

A simple recovery tool is remembering HALT.

Before reacting to cravings, ask yourself if you are:

• Hungry

• Angry

• Lonely

• Tired

These four states can significantly increase vulnerability to relapse.

Addressing basic needs often reduces cravings and improves emotional resilience.

Sometimes what feels like a desire to drink is actually exhaustion, loneliness, or stress.

Focus on What You’re Building

Recovery is about more than avoiding substances.

It’s about creating a life that no longer requires escape.

As you move through the summer, focus on the things you’re gaining:

• Better health

• Stronger relationships

• Greater self-respect

• Improved mental clarity

• Financial stability

• Freedom

Every sober day is evidence that change is possible.

Every challenge you overcome strengthens your confidence.

Every event you navigate successfully proves that recovery works.

the 10th round

Summer doesn’t have to threaten your sobriety. In fact, it can become an opportunity to strengthen it.

By identifying triggers, creating a plan, staying connected to your support system, and maintaining healthy routines, you can navigate the season with confidence.

Remember that recovery isn’t about avoiding life—it’s about fully participating in it.

The weather, the parties, the vacations, and the celebrations may come and go, but the progress you’ve worked so hard to build is worth protecting.

If you’re struggling to stay sober, feeling isolated, or looking for additional accountability, coaching can provide support, structure, and guidance as you continue your recovery journey.

You don’t have to do it alone.

Stay in the fight.